Tuesday, 24 April 2018

Why are you so depressed?

What are you so depressed about?

Alright so this one is going to be a little ranty but hey I’m sure my followers would expect nothing less. I’m very vocal about depression, I’ve had it since I was 13 in various forms - sometimes bad days, mostly good but that’s the point really isn’t it? Every day is different and it’s something that will always live with me and every day is a personal fight and battle. I particularly suffer in winter so I'm slowly feeling a little bit more cheery but I digress

So I got chatting to a guy, a guy who i was dated but had let him know it wasn’t going to work, not looking for a relationship ya see being single highly suits me right now. During this chat before it went very sour (lol rejection hurt hun? Diddums) we got talking about how I hadn’t been feeling good and was having a really bad day to which he asked ‘what are you so depressed about your life’s going great’

Well shit. I’m so glad you pointed that out because I was oblivious. Yeh my life’s fucking brilliant at the minute everything seems to be falling into place and larger goals are coming together. But does that mean depression doesn’t rear its ugly head? Quite the opposite actually. Everybody’s journeys different and everybody triggers differently but I find that if I’m on a crazy high of happiness I feel I don’t deserve it and I slump straight back to low

Don’t get me wrong I don’t want sympathy, I don’t need it. I control my depression in many ways I’ve learnt over the years that work for me, because in all honesty one solution doesn’t suit everyone but like hell I'm going to let some random guy question me or my mental health without some serious putting him back in his place (I got blocked - I call that a solid win)

I’ve recently been reviewing an app called Thrive* that aims to help people with depression and anxiety become a little more mindful, provide calming techniques and daily goals to keep on track. In concept I think a lovely idea, and the app is super easy to use with some great ways to make you think about what’s triggered you etc.

It combines lots of different aspects such as breathing techniques, meditation techniques and daily goals that are personalised to you depending on what your triggers are. The app is really user friendly and super pretty.

Personally I didn’t get on with it very well, I found it quite prescriptive and laborious checking in each day for goals etc. But I do think it could work for someone who needs that routine and order and could be really useful

 Depression is an ugly little beast but one I have to embrace with open arms because it’s the only way me and the black dog can become friends and live together in harmony. I’m usually also very understanding of people’s ignorance but hey he must’ve caught me on a bad day whoops!.

How do you cope with your mental health?

Monday, 2 April 2018

Hey it's ok!

While perusing a few blog's I came across a Hey it's ok post and just had to write my own because nostalgia! I remember reading these consistently in Glamour, the very last page and teenage me loving them - turns out adult me has very similar 'hey it's ok' moments so let's roll with it:

If  'spring cleaning' means chucking everything in a cupboard and closing the door

If you've eaten your body weight in chocolate over the easter break

If you'd rather be in bed watching netflix than out living it up over bank holiday

To choose Mcdonalds Monopoly over a bikini body

If you've already decided to start on 'Monday' every Monday of 2018

Clicking remind me tomorrow on all your app updates because you're not ready to commit to that

Saying 'oh we should definitely have a catch up' to a random acquaintance with zero intention of following it up

To talk to your cats - they 100% understand what you're saying

To get the ick when dating someone and every little thing annoys you

To feel like you want to punch a man when he tries to 'mansplain' everything to you GTFO

Leave your hey it's ok's in the comments

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